Do you argue about politics on social media? Do you find yourself getting angry and often one step away from “unfriending” someone or blocking them?
And what happens when you argue about politics with someone right in front of you? Are you able to keep calm or do you feel your blood begin to boil?
I have an interesting mix of Facebook “friends,” and follow an eclectic mix of folks on Twitter.
Most of these people are relatively outspoken about their political views, and many of them are political junkies just like me. Hence, we are connected via social media. My social media contacts are pretty much equally divided between the two dominant political parties, but most of them could be described as political moderates.
Lately, however, I am seeing an increasing number of my friends becoming more extremist, whether they sit on the left or right side of the political aisle. I’m not a big fan of the word “extremist,” I prefer to describe these particular friends as passionate.
Passion, however, does not equal reason or even common sense. You can be passionate about something, but if you’re leading with your heart or your gut instead of your brain, you are bound to cross paths with someone who has a polar opposite point of view.
Witnessing those interactions is like watching a train wreck. Nothing good comes from it.
Passionate folks often decry the role of moderates. They say we lack convictions, courage and principles. I would counter that passionate people rarely pause to use their brains when trying to make a political point.
So there, I just lost the art of political persuasion.
We live in a culture of winners and losers. We love to root for our teams, and politics has always been a blood-sport.
We have cliches such as “elections have consequences,” a modern adaptation of “to the victor go the spoils.”
But what is the point of winning a political argument? If you win, does it really help your candidate or cause?
What is more important: your PRIDE or your GREED?
Pride is defined as your way of doing things, your personal view of yourself and tactics. Greed is defined as your goals, the object of your desire.
So, first ask yourself: am I arguing to beat someone or am I arguing to help them better see my point?
Instead of bashing a candidate or cause, why not vest your energy into making a more compelling argument for your candidate or cause?
Why are you arguing? To thump your chest, to make a point or maybe to win someone over?
Last week, Speaker of the House John Boehner abruptly announced he would be leaving his post at the end of October. That announcement drew cheers from many of my friends on both sides of the aisle.
I don’t think Republicans understand fully how much Boehner helped his party. He was a fundraising machine and held together one of the most challenging caucuses in recent memory.
I also don’t think many of my friends on the left appreciate Boehner’s dedication to his country, his willingness to compromise and the leadership he offered in the House.
If it is to be all out war between the two political parties, then the casualties will be counted in losses for our nation.
So let’s all take a stab at better approach to arguing. Let’s persuade instead of attack.
Persuasion is much more difficult, but it is far more rewarding.
And it will likely help keep your blood pressure in check.
For a complete style guide about how to really win a political argument, check this link from New York Magazine.