Day Tripper

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard about the plight of Brittney Griner, an American basketball player who is currently being held in a Russian prison facility.

Some people in the United States are laughing about Griner’s plight. More about that in a moment.

Griner, 32, is a formidable athlete who plays for the WNBA here in the United States and took a playing gig with a Russian basketball team during the off-season. On Feb. 17, Griner was arrested at a Russian airport and charged with drug possession, a crime that could land her a 10-year sentence in Russia.

Last week, Griner plead guilty to the charges, a move her lawyers say was necessary if she wanted to avoid a lengthy prison term. Allegedly, Griner was in possession of several vaping supplies, including cannabis oil. (For my readers over 25, cannabis is what we called marijuana back in the day)

(Photo: Boston Globe)

Griner, her wife and millions of Americans have been pleading, begging and cajoling U.S. officials, including President Joe Biden, to intervene on her behalf and help get her out of jail.

So, why do some Americans (mostly conservatives) think it’s amusing that Griner is sitting in a Russian jail?

Well, I — and more than 250 billion other people — don’t watch WNBA games, but according to several media outlets, Griner refused to stand and place her hand over her heart during the playing of the National Anthem at a basketball game in 2020.

Griner’s critics say she is a hypocrite, one day “bashing” the United States, and then begging for the U.S. government to get her out of jail.

Before we go any further, let me say that I think Griner’s refusal to stand for the National Anthem was boorish behavior. But that’s just my opinion, and here in the United States you can share your opinion without any fear of the government.

In America, you are free to express your opinion, even if it doesn’t align with the majority. In America, you can openly criticize the government. Not so much in many other nations.

This is what I believe makes America great, the true diversity of our populace, including a diversity of opinions. In America, you should not be forced or compelled in any way to stand for the National Anthem.

That said, I think you should be polite and stand for the Anthem, even if you’re angry with the government, but your freedom trumps my opinion.

A few weeks ago, I saw a pick-up truck driving down Main Street in Saco. The truck was decorated with two large American flags and a large sign that read: “Fuck Biden.”

What do you think would happen if you drove through Moscow with a giant sign that read: “Fuck Putin?” Yeah, right. Good luck with that.

On the other side of the political aisle, many Democrats are angry that Biden is not doing more to get Ms. Griner back home. Some people have even opined that if were Tom Brady instead of Brittney Griner, Brady would be back in plenty of time for his 247th season with the NFL.

Is it because Griner is Black? Is it because Griner is a lesbian? Is it because she plays for the WNBA instead of the much more popular NFL? Maybe, but I don’t think so.

I think Putin is really angry with the U.S. right now, and that he is going to do whatever it takes to exploit this issue.

In closing, I think Brittney Griner should be released immediately from jail. I also think she should stand the next time she hears the National Anthem, but that’s her decision and her right. Freedom means that she gets to make that choice.

A boy named Sue

I have a problem. Maybe you have the same problem.

The very first step for recovering alcoholics in the AA program is to admit that you are powerless over alcohol — that your life has become unmanageable.

Only by the grace of God, I am not an alcoholic, but I am an addict. And while not yet unmanageable, my addiction is interfering in the quality of my life . . .

What am I talking about? Cocaine? Opiates? Ben & Jerry’s ice cream? No, no and  . . . well, maybe.

I’m talking about social media. As soon as I wake up in the morning, I reach for my phone to see if anyone has commented on one of my posts; or commented on one of my responses on someone else’s post. Several times during the day, even while working, I find myself scrolling through Facebook updates.

I am a political junkie. I always have been for as long as I can remember. I blame my parents. They got me hooked on watching the news. One time, my father pulled me out of school so that I could see Jimmy Carter during a campaign stop in Biddeford.

They made me stay up late on school nights and watch “Roots,” a televised production of the Alex Hailey novel. We participated in the “Fresh Air” program, hosting minority, inner-city kids from New York during the summer.

I remember seeing George Wallace get shot on the news. I was glued to the television when Nixon announced his resignation. By the time I hit sixth-grade, I was writing essays about G. Gordon Liddy and Charles (Chuck) Colson. I dreamed about becoming the next Carl Bernstein.

My mother is and was always a progressive Democrat. When my parents divorced, she became relentless with Helen Reddy music. To this day, if I hear: “I am woman, hear me roar . . .” I begin to twitch and drool. Mom wore that album out on the old Zenith turntable.

Meanwhile, my Dad became a volunteer on Ted Kennedy’s failed presidential campaign in 1980. Before then, they were always talking at the dinner table about Vietnam and the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King and other boring stuff.

I was hooked. I became a political animal. It was once a badge of honor, but has since become a curse.

I can’t help myself. For some reason I cannot just scroll by political posts on Facebook, even the bat-shit crazy memes created by extremists on the polar ends of both political parties. I LOVE to argue. I piss off friends on the left and then I piss off friends on the right.

I am sarcastic and stubborn, a fly in the ointment, always challenging the so-called iron-clad pronouncements of the self-righteous, never quite realizing that I’m just being an asshole. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Somewhere along the line, even though I once worked for the Maine People’s Alliance, I started becoming a bit conservative in my political outlook. It makes my mother cry and my father roll in his grave.

As some of you may already know, I used to get paid to offer my opinions as the editor of a local newspaper. That led to hosting a live political talk show on public access television. Politics led to meeting my wife for the first time on Election Day 2001. She was running for a seat on the Old Orchard Beach School Board. I did not endorse her in my local endorsements. She was pissed. Really pissed, sending me e-mail after e-mail after e-mail because of a tiny mistake. She does the same shit today.

Anyway, so often I find myself engaged, actually consumed, in heated arguments on social media. My blood pressure spikes. I lose track of time. Before you know it, hours have passed.

That’s precious time that could have been allocated toward more meaningful and productive endeavors; like re-arranging my sock drawer or working on my collection of Canadian placemats.

Even while vacationing with my wife just a few kilometers south of Cancun, I was still arguing with people on Facebook. There I was, in paradise with the love of my life. Beautiful scenery, the green Caribbean and white sands, palm trees and I’m arguing about Donald Trump, Joe Biden and the cost of gasoline . . . WTF?

In all seriousness, it’s just silly. No one out there is trying to engage you and help you see their perspective. Instead, it seems they just want to scream about the other side being wrong. You really have to work at it in order to find consensus . . . and it’s damn rare.

I don’t care what your political outlook is, I can be friends with you . . . well, at least on Facebook. Look, we are ALL much more alike than we may want to admit.

We all love puppies and pictures of newborns.

We all have fears and concerns that we don’t share publicly.

We all have parents, and some of us have children. Everyone I know would take a bullet to save their child or their parents.

We all love sunny days and the smell of fresh-cut grass, the gentle pelting of a late afternoon rain shower.

We have all made silly mistakes.

I am worried about the world and where we are heading, but I can’t afford to let that consume me. I find solace in music (and 200mg of Clozapine every night). I have posted this video clip before, but I think it needs to be repeated.

A friend turned me onto this band earlier this year. These four young Asian women are amazing, and this song, in particular, gives me hope for the future: the idea that everything is going to be okay.

Also, the drummer is 12. Not a typo. She is 12. Give it a listen and tell me that you don’t feel just a little bit better about the world. I need more music and fewer political conversations in my life. Cheers!

Send lawyers, guns and money

The world is going to Hell in a handbasket.

Well, at least according to a friend of mine, who was recently lamenting the concept of Critical Race Theory, discussion of gender identity in public schools and the “whole gay marriage thing.”

Maybe you’re thinking, why are you friends with someone like that? Well, to be honest, I have several friends who feel the same way. They are not racists or bigots. They are decent, hard-working, kind and generous people. For the most part, they ascribe to a “live and let live attitude,” but many of them also cite their own religious beliefs and convictions as the foundation and the basis of their concerns.

On the other side of the coin, I have some friends who are somewhat trigger-happy with the “politically correct” gun. In their view, racism and bigotry can be found around almost every corner. They seem to be perpetually “offended,” and generally have a dim view of religion, NASCAR and the Second Amendment.

However, the vast and overwhelming majority of my friends can be found somewhere in the middle of that spectrum. It’s also where I find myself . . . at least most of the time.

Regular readers of this blog and those who follow me on social media already know that I am a political centrist, and that I ping back and forth between conservative and liberal thought as easily as a blade of grass is bent by the breeze. According to some people, I have no convictions or moral compass. I have also been accused of being a kiss-ass and guilty of “virtue signaling.”

Let’s pause here for a moment and think about that last sentence. Virtue signaling? Apparently, from what I have been able to gather, this is a term used by conservatives to describe someone who publicly discusses racism or liberal attitudes. People who use this phrase, apparently, don’t like people talking about virtues. Is it bad to have virtues? I don’t know, let’s move on.

Man of the year

Several weeks ago, I apparently made a comment in the public square about the issue of gender identity. I can’t seem to find it now, but I think that I basically wondered why gender identity was all of a sudden a thing. In my view, it was the just the latest in a trend to continually prove that we are each special and unique and need new ways to pronounce our self-absorbed identity to the rest of the world.

That post/comment prompted a call from a friend I have known for nearly 30 years. He said, “We need to get together for a beer and talk.” I drove into Portland a few days later to meet him for lunch. He told me that he had recently come to understand that he was a member of the LGBTQ community, specifically that he is transgendered.

I was knocked back on my heels. Look, I consider myself to be an open-minded and tolerant guy. I have several very close friends who are either gay or lesbian. In fact, one of my most dear friends (a man I lived with for several years) is openly gay. But I never before had a friend who is transgendered.

I had a ton of questions. Of all the people I know, this particular friend was the last person I would imagine to be transgendered. He is a successful professional, happily married to a beautiful woman with a gorgeous daughter, a beautiful home . . . you know, the whole nine yards of normalcy.

So, over the course of an hour or so, I peppered my friend with questions. Does his wife know? How did she handle the news? What about his daughter? His family?

When did you choose to be a man, he asked me.

I didn’t choose. I was born that way, I replied.

Exactly, he responded. When it comes to gender identity, none of us choose. It’s not like a hobby or joining the Elks Club. It’s who you are.

Yeah, I responded but you’re born with certain genitalia, which determines if you’re male or female.

“Gender identity is about a lot more than genitalia and it’s not about sexual preference,” he said. “As far back as I can remember, I was always more comfortable playing with girls. By the time I hit middle school, I was constantly bullied because I wasn’t like most of the other boys in my class. Society drills into you what is expected if you are a boy or if you a girl. Those expectations are relentless.”

Our conversation went all over the place. I questioned him about natural law and defiance of God’s will.

“What if I don’t believe in God?” he responded. “Do you really think the world is going to come of its axis if some people choose to identify with a gender that is different from the one to which they were assigned? Trans people have been around since the beginning of time. How does it impact you or anyone you know if I choose to identify as a woman? Who is being harmed?”

I have been thinking about that conversation for almost a month, and here’s what I have come to believe. [Pause here. Disclosure: I do not have any advanced degrees, including psychology, religion or political science. I’m just a bald, overweight, underachiever from Biddeford, Maine. My opinion, plus $4.25, will get you a small coffee at Dunkin’ Donuts. So, relax. This is just my opinion and it carries no more weight than your opinion]

I think my friend is mostly right. Some hardline conservatives tend to get all worked up about individual rights when it comes to things like wearing a mask in public during a global pandemic, but they are quick to judge individual choices and preferences. They want you to subscribe to their values.

Furthermore, I don’t want to live in a government that is controlled or motivated by certain religious beliefs. Those guys who flew airliners into the World Trade Center were convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that they were doing God’s work.

Now, I can almost hear what some of you are thinking. What about professional/collegiate or even high school sports/competitions? What about boys who want to use the girls’ bathroom?

I confess. I don’t have the answers to all those questions. But I am convinced that a nation that figured out how to put a man on the moon can figure out some common-sense solutions to these questions or dilemmas. For example, we could have a third restroom that could be used by anyone. It’s not rocket science. Hell, we have only had the Americans with Disabilities Act for a little more than 30 years (1990).

Today, just about anywhere you go, you can find accommodations for people with physical disabilities. We figured it out. Despite some protests about the cost impacts to Joe and Jane Taxpayer, businesses and institutions were able to adapt. I happen to think that the world is a better place if people with physical disabilities can get on the bus, do their own grocery shopping or attend a sporting event.

Hey, teacher! Leave them kids alone

Now here’s where I part company with some of my friends on the left side of the political aisle.

There is absolutely no need to develop curriculum for kids in grades K-3 to foster classroom conversations about gender identity, sexual preference or gay marriage.

For Pete’s sake, we’re talking about kids aged 5-8 years old. At this age, kids will gladly eat paste, crayons or their own snot. In most cases, they don’t yet have the intellectual or emotional capacity to determine which socks they should wear. They should be allowed to be fun-loving kids without concern for adult subject matters. You only get a 3-4 year window of just being a kid, why muck it up for them?

I mean really. There is a reason we don’t let kids vote until they are 18 or drive until they are 16. There are appropriate age barriers for childhood development stages. Here in the state of Maine, the age of consent is 16 years old, which means a child under the age of 16 cannot consent to sexual acts. I don’t know about you, but that makes sense to me.

I remember one particular day when I was in the fifth grade and all the girls in our class got to go to a special assembly and the boys were left behind in the classroom. I remember asking our teacher, Mr. Flaherty, what was going on. He replied curtly, “nothing you need to worry about.” Boom. End of conversation. I went back to whatever I was doing to pass the time. The girls returned to the classroom about an hour later and they all had gift bags.

What a rip-off, I thought. It just wasn’t fair, I reasoned.

The next year, in health class, the mystery was cleared up for all of us. Some of us giggled, others let their minds drift someplace else and others just accepted what we were being taught. It was really no big deal. I don’t recall any pending legislation or parent protests. We were 12-year-old public school students and we learned about sexual intercourse, pregnancy and menstruation. Upon learning these things, we didn’t run out and start fornicating like jack rabbits. (Well maybe the other kids did, but it would be another 35 years before I experienced sexual intercourse.)

If a seven-year-old asks his teacher “why does Johnny have two daddies,” an appropriate response is: because Johnny’s parents are different than your parents. Boom. End of conversation. I’ll bet you dollars to donuts that kid will simply shrug his shoulders and move on to the very next thing that catches his attention, like wondering how much money the tooth fairy is going to leave under his pillow.

And for those of you who are worried that the gay/transgender lobby is out to recruit your kid. Relax. Your kid already knows if he/she is gay or straight. Again, it’s not something you just randomly choose. Hey wait, I think I’ll try being gay for a while. No, it doesn’t work like that.

As for corrective/trans-gender surgery options, I believe you should be at least 16 years old before you can make that decision. Even then, I think it’s dicey because you’re talking about a medical procedure that is pretty much permanent.

If your son is gay, it’s not because of something he learned in school. Are you going to still love him after he tells you that he is gay? Are you gonna try to have him fixed? If your daughter tells you that she is attracted to other women, what’s your response? Frankly, I don’t think kids should be having sex until they are 18, but it happens. Once, they are grown and out of the house, however, the less I know about their sex lives, the better.

I know I promised to also discuss gay marriage and Critical Race Theory in this post, but we are pretty much out of room for today. I will tackle those lightweight subjects in the near future. In the meantime, focus on being a nice person and stop being offended about every little thing.

We’re all different, but we are also all the same. Let’s spend more time focusing on what unites us rather than worrying so much about what divides us.

Peace!

Pretty Persuasion, Part 3

Before we proceed any further, please allow me to be perfectly clear. Just like millions of other people all over the world, I am outraged and saddened by the events now happening in Ukraine.

But, as this conflict goes on I am also struck by my own hypocrisy, and I’m wondering why so many of us (especially in the United States) are so angry about Russia’s invasion and so sympathetic to the people of Ukraine; yet we are basically silent about similar conflicts that are now raging in several African countries (and other places around the world).

Yes, it’s true. The people of Ukraine are suffering horrible circumstances. Towns and villages are being wiped out. Hundreds of people are dying every day. Refugees have been forced out of their homeland. Innocent people have lost their homes and basically all their possessions.

But here’s the thing. The same exact thing is happening right now in Ethiopia, Central African Republic (CAR), Sudan and many other places, where ongoing civil wars and other conflicts have been raging for years. Children are being killed by warlords. Territories are being occupied by those with military might.

Why are we not getting nightly news updates about those conflicts? Where is CNN’s round-the-clock coverage? Why aren’t people updating their Facebook profile pictures with the flag of Cameroon?

(Photo credit; DW.com)

I have some theories about why we seem to care more about Ukraine than many other nations.

  1. Americans have been indoctrinated for more than 60 years now about the evils of Russia and its threat to the free world. From drills that involve hiding under school desks to free-flowing rhetoric about the evils of communism, we have a long and well-documented history of loathing and fearing Russia.
  • Unlike many of the aforementioned African nations, Ukraine is rich in natural resources that are very important to the United States and other western nations, including recoverable reserves of uranium ores, titanium ore reserves, shale gas reserves, food resources (wheat, corn, etc.) and on and on.
  • We tend to have short attention spans. Although profoundly sad on many levels, news about an actor slapping a comedian temporarily overshadowed the media’s news priority over Ukraine and lots of other things, including how millions of Americans are struggling with record-breaking inflation.
  • Russia’s invasion of Ukraine came as a flashpoint in Eastern European geo-political theater. Meanwhile, war and civil unrest seems to be par for the course in several African nations. It’s been going on for centuries and shows no sign of ending any time in the foreseeable future.
  • It should be noted that Ukraine’s location is a high strategic resource for the western world; hence why Putin is so bugged about Ukraine becoming part of NATO.
  • Finally, the majority of Ukrainian people are white. Just like us. It’s easier to sympathize when the people and the landscape look familiar. We see towering steel and concrete apartment buildings that have been destroyed by Russian rockets. It’s much harder to envision war-torn regions in many African nations before they were involved in war.

As I wrote at the beginning of this post: what is happening in Ukraine today is horrific and gut-wrenchingly sad. Vladimir Putin should be tried and convicted of war crimes. The people of Ukraine did nothing to provoke Russia. They are innocent. It is more than understandable why the free world is outraged by what is happening.

It is good and laudable to send humanitarian resources to Ukraine. It is good to place economic and other sanctions upon Russia.

But let’s not forget that a whole lot of other people are also suffering the same exact nightmare in places you won’t read about on the front page of the Washington Post or other daily papers. Let’s make what is happening in Ukraine awaken the rest of us from our slumber.

For every dollar of relief we donate to Ukraine, let’s match that gift with an equal donation to the people of Ethiopia or any other war-torn shithole around the globe.

Let’s not beat our chests of moral indignation and sympathy only when it’s convenient to do so.

Lie to me

Earlier this week, Chris Wallace – son of legendary journalist Mike Wallace – appeared on the Stephen Colbert Show and said, among other things, that his father and the legendary television news show 60 Minutes were partly to blame for today’s public distrust of the media.

Wallace, a former FOX Network news anchor who this week began his own show on CNN Plus, said he understands why many Americans have a dim view of the media and how it presents news.

When asked what, if anything, could be done to restore public trust in the media, Wallace told Colbert that before the advent of 60 Minutes, the major networks – CBS, NBC and ABC – considered the broadcast of news to be a “public service.”

Wallace said he believes that “[today’s] desire to chase ratings and make money is what needs to change if the news and the public’s faith in it are to be restored,” according to an MSN story about the interview.

“It used to be in the old days, and I can remember growing up with my father in the ’70s, that news didn’t make money. It was a public service, and the networks viewed it as a public service,” Wallace said. “And then 60 Minutes came along and showed you could make phenomenal amounts of money with the news business.”

60 Minutes first aired in 1968 and was originally hosted by Mike Wallace and Harry Reasoner. The show has often been praised by journalists and other media programs for its integrity and “fearless” pursuit of the news. It has enjoyed steadfast popularity in television ratings for more than five decades.

Today, however, a growing number of Americans say that the media can’t be trusted. Many people claim that today’s media is politically biased. Another often heard complaint is that today’s news is more “editorial than objective news.”

It’s easy to understand why many people feel that the news is no longer objective and fact-based. Today, more than ever before, Americans – and people all over the world – have an increasingly wide range of news options, many of which that have popped up during the past 20 to 30 years on cable television, satellite radio and, of course, the internet.

It’s hard to know who or what to trust, and it’s easier than ever before to blame the media for everything from today’s political climate to the rising cost of gasoline. Millions of people, it seems, are convinced that big media is orchestrating a vicious web of lies intended to keep “regular people in the dark.”

So how can we put the genie back in the bottle? How do we — or can we — restore the concept that news is a public service? Can we really stop the networks from “chasing ratings?”

I seriously doubt it.

If the news delivery business is to truly be a public service than we have to remove the profit factor. Please don’t blather on about NPR (National Public Radio). Even their “listener-supporter” broadcasts include corporate messaging and receive government funding.

Do we really want the government funding the news? Yeah, right. Surely, we can trust the government to fairly and accurately report news and information about the government. I don’t think so.

Getting money out of the news business is problematic on many levels. How do we pay journalists or recruit top journalistic talent? How do we pay for the delivery of the news (the producers, clerks, editors, technicians, camera operators, etc. etc.)?

So, what’s the solution? How do we keep the news business honest?

From my perspective, the more news outlets we have, the better. But more news outlets also requires more viewer/reader/listener discretion. It’s easy to gravitate toward news that aligns with our own pre-disposed political beliefs and philosophies. It’s much harder to seek out information that might make us uncomfortable.

In the end, there are no easy answers. As long as we need a scapegoat to explain things we don’t like or trust, the media will always be a convenient target.

In the words of legendary journalist Walter Cronkite: And, that’s the way it is.

Johnny, we hardly knew ye

For me, it’s hard to know what to think or feel about the recent news regarding former Maine gubernatorial candidate Eliot Cutler.

According to several news reports, police allegedly discovered several computer files of child pornography in Cutler’s home this week.

Before we go any further, make no mistake about it. Crimes against children are especially heinous and repugnant. I think we can all agree on that point.

While the civil libertarian in me wants to say we are all innocent until proven guilty, there is a much more well-defined part of me that wants to forgo all the hassles of a trial and simply drag Cutler into a darkened alley and beat him to death with a 36-inch aluminum baseball bat.

Even amongst hardened criminals, child sex offenders are the lowest of the low. If convicted and sent to prison, Cutler will likely need to be placed into protective custody. Another slap to the people of Maine.

In my opinion, there is no forgiveness for this kind of crime. There is no redemption. It is one of the darkest corners of humanity, a place that is impossible for most of us to imagine.

One more disclaimer before we proceed any further. I voted for Cutler. Twice.

In case you don’t recall, Cutler twice ran for governor as an “independent” candidate. He angered Democrats who said he split their party’s vote and allowed Republican Paul LePage to win with 38 percent of the vote.

He also pissed off Republicans who said he was nothing more than a wolf in sheep’s clothing: a Democrat who might be able to peel away some of their party’s centrist votes by talking about fiscal responsibility.

Today, in the wake of this horrific news, both Democrats and Republicans are saying: “See? I told you so.”

Do a quick Google search and you will find that nearly a dozen Maine men have all been arrested for possession of child pornography within the past year. We don’t hear much about those men, despite the fact that their crimes were just as heinous as Cutler’s.

Cutler is leading the six o’clock news because he willingly stepped into it. Unlike those other men who have been arrested for possession of child pornography, Cutler sought the media’s attention and favor. He portrayed himself as a man who would make responsible decisions; as a man of good character.

In the end, it has become abundantly clear during the last 48 hours that Cutler is neither of those things.

Yes, Cutler is innocent until proven guilty, but the evidence against him is pretty damning. The men and women of Maine’s State Police take their jobs seriously. They don’t get search warrants on a whim.

Like you, I don’t have all the facts. Like you, I am disgusted by the story.

But what I do know is this: These crimes were not political. Child sex offenders do not fit into such convenient categories.

It is disheartening to witness Cutler’s fall from grace. It is disturbing to think about or even contemplate this type of crime.

But it is also sad – at least for me – to watch pundits, party stalwarts and others beat their proverbial chests and try to use this awful news to further their own political agendas.

It’s a shitty story, all the way around.

Losing my religion

Warning: This post is about politics, God, a dear friend of mine and a chance encounter with my sixth-grade Social Studies teacher.

I enjoy talking politics with my friends, even with those friends who adamantly disagree with me or have an entirely different perspective than mine.

There are consequences, however. Openly discussing your political beliefs (made so much easier today with social media) can cost you some very special friendships; it can also put a strain on your relationships with family members; it can even cost you your job or social status.

Politics, very much like religion, is not for the faint of heart.  Both topics are generally dominated by people with an absolute and an unquestionable belief that their position is the correct one.

I envy those people. I really do.

A few years ago, a friend gave me a copy of book titled: “I don’t have enough faith to be an atheist.”  I never read the book, and now I can’t even find the copy she gave me. Basically, the book explores the contrasting worlds of atheism and Christianity, tackling subjects such as “does God really exist; and if so how is God defined and what are the consequences for the world.”

It is not light reading, which pretty much explains why I didn’t read it.

From my perspective, it is decidedly much more convenient to reject the notion of God, the idea of sin and the premise that there is something much greater than human construct. It’s much more palatable for me to be a “spiritual” being; a small part of a great universe in which we are all connected, open to definition, without judgment or much consequence for any of our actions.

I feel warm and fuzzy just thinking about it.

I was raised as a Catholic. I didn’t learn much about God or Jesus Christ during my weekly catechism classes, but I aced the lessons in standing, sitting and kneeling on command. I also learned about the Pope, the hazards of a nun with a ruler and the seven sacraments.

The coolest of the seven sacraments, in my opinion, is the Holy Sacrament of Confession. For you non-Catholics out there (repent now before being cast into Hell), the weekly act of confession involves going into a telephone booth sized room and telling a priest about your sins. The priest then absolves you of all your sins and as a consequence instructs you to say five (maybe 10) Hail Mary prayers.

It was like a license to sin. Steal a pack of chewing gum from Zayre’s? Say five Hail Marys. Get into your father’s collection of Playboy magazines? Say five Hail Marys. Kill the neighbor’s cat (on purpose)? Say five Hail Marys.

There is a reason that the concept of “Hail Mary” is synonymous with the idea of a long-shot. Just ask Fredo Corelone about that.

Anyway, growing up Catholic is relatively painless. You don’t have to handle snakes, you just have to digest a small, thin wafer of cardboard every week and believe that it has been transformed into the body of Jesus Christ.

I tried being a good Catholic. I was an altar boy and even toyed with the idea of becoming a priest, but in the end I felt a huge void. There was something missing.

Busload of faith

I make no secrets about my mental illness and my daily battles with depression, paranoia and schizophrenia. I take medications. I see a psychiatrist. I undergo ECT treatments, and I see a therapist. My therapist recently retired and I was assigned to a new one.

He is a man from India. He is funny, smart and friendly. During our very first meeting, he asked me something I never expected: How is your faith?

My head tilted. My body stiffened. My mind raced: huh? What? Does my insurance cover this?

Bottom line? I am very uncomfortable talking about things like faith, religion or God. But there it was and there it now remains. This gnawing feeling that I don’t have faith. That my world view is missing a very big component. My idea of right versus wrong could be completely off mark. Maybe everything I learned while growing up was a lie. Maybe I need to be open to some new ideas, some new beliefs.

Last week, I had the opportunity to have lunch with a very close and longtime friend that I have not seen in a long time. Up until that point, I was doing a pretty good job of feeling sorry for myself: I have been dealing with some dental issues and corresponding levels of pain that impact everything from eating to sleeping. I am anxious about rising fuel costs and wondering how I will heat my home next year. On and on and on.

Then, I took a breath and asked him how things were going in his life. Without going into all the awful details, his life is severely screwed up right now: his health, his finances, the strains on his marriage and so much more. I could not (and still cannot) imagine going through what he is going through. I asked him. ‘How are you getting through this?” He smiled patiently. “I have faith,” he replied.

I was polite and kept my thoughts to myself. “Dude, it doesn’t sound like faith is working out for you.”

But the more I listened, the more I was struck by his calm in a sea of calamity; of his confidence in a world chock full of doubt. We talked about a lot of things. About the difference between wrong and right, about what is happening in the world today and yes, we talked about God.

Back to politics for a moment. In many ways, I was a lucky kid in my formative years. My political leanings came from being raised by my very liberal mother, whose political identity is slightly left of Noam Chomsky; and by my late uncle who would be found politically right of Ronald Reagan.

Today, I happily engage in political discussions with friends and soon to be ex-friends. Sometimes, I argue simply for the sheer joy of arguing. I seek out controversy and then piss gasoline onto its flames.

But you have to be careful. The most common causes of war? Politics and religion. Choose your battles wisely. Keep your options open. Stand for something or fall for anything. Be brave, but be smart.

Finally, I stopped by one of my favorite watering holes after work yesterday. Also seated at the bar were two older men who were heavily engaged in a discussion about politics, the damn media and their opinions about the crisis in Ukraine.

They seemed clueless that anyone was listening to them talk. I kept to myself, nursing a beer and trying to mind my own damn business. And then someone said something about Saco Middle School and then one of the men said something about Thornton Academy.

I couldn’t help myself. “I graduated from Thornton,” I piped up. The men paused and turned to face me. One of them said, “Did you go to Saco Middle School? Suddenly, a light bulb went off. One of those men was Mr. Boothby, ironically my sixth-grade Social Studies teacher. We both laughed. He then recognized me. I asked about his wife, my beloved second-grade teacher. He hung his head just a bit. She passed three years ago, he told me. She had bravely fought a battle with Alzheimer’s. The grief in his voice was palpable.

I don’t know how I would survive if I lost Laura. I don’t know if I could ever forgive God for taking her from me. I don’t know how I could rise and face each new day. I bet it would take more than a bottle of pills, some talk therapy and electronically induced seizures. I can only imagine that it would take a busload of faith.

The Dangerous Type

Four years ago this week, (the third week of February) I was discharged from Spring Harbor, a psychiatric hospital in Westbrook, Maine.

It was my most recent hospitalization. I have been in and out of psychiatric hospitals for more than 40 years, sometimes on a voluntary basis; other times as an involuntary patient. I have been hospitalized in Arizona, Tennessee, Oregon and Maine. So, I consider myself a little bit of an expert on this subject.

Trust me on this: being a patient on a psychiatric ward sucks. In all fairness, being a patient in any kind of hospital for any reason is no picnic for anyone. Hospitals are typically places we go to when we are ill or injured. Other than child birth, most people do their very best to avoid hospitals.

It is the same for psychiatric patients. I have heard people say or joke that they could use a “vacation” on a psych unit or that “mental people use hospitals to avoid their responsibilities.” These are actual quotations.

I have been on vacations. I have been a patient on a psychiatric unit. Believe me. There is nothing similar between these two things. Nothing.

For more than four decades now I have been taking a wide variety of psychiatric medications. Today, I take five different medications to treat everything from life-sucking depression to anxiety and yes, the consequences of a schizo-affective disorder.

Imagine your spouse telling you that they had to stay in the basement in order to get away from the government? Or imagine what it would be like if your sibling called you, crying and confused because they had gotten lost on the way home from work?

Imagine not being able to remember anything that happened last week or being unable to read more than two pages a day? This is my life off medications. And yup, this is also my life on medications. The meds just make the consequences less frequent and less severe.

Why do I say all this? Am I just looking for sympathy? Shouldn’t I keep this stuff private?

Take me to the river

I have been publicly open about my mental illness for several years now. That, and my pitiful attempts at trying to be a father, are the two things I want to be remembered for. They are the two things in my life, other than Laura, that matter most to me. They are my only real contributions to society, to the world around me.

It doesn’t get any better than this: My sons and I enjoying some time together on the banks of the Saco River.

Of course, like most people, I am generally selective about what I share on social media. I try to portray myself as witty, as some kind of half-assed satirist, a fun-loving guy, someone you would want to be friends with; a hard-working and responsible member of society; a successful husband and father.

Maybe I am those things. Maybe not.

But it seems that publicly sharing my personal struggles with mental illness gives others permission to reach out to me in search of a friendly ear, advice about a family member or their own struggle with some kind of psychiatric illness.

That is so gratifying to me. Beyond words.

I want to break down and destroy the myths and stereotypes that accompany mental illness. Imagine a friend telling you that they have been diagnosed with brain cancer. What would you say? What would you do?

I’m almost positive you would not say something like “stop feeling sorry for yourself,” or “it’s all in your head,” which, ironically is sort of true about brain cancer. Why is mental illness different? Why is it still okay for Hollywood to refer to psychiatrists as “shrinks?”

Those battling cancer are described as brave and courageous. We wear ribbons to show our support. We are quick to offer our empathy, our support, our understanding.

Tell someone that you are hearing voices and the reaction is a lot different. Trust me. Way different.

Honestly, what do you think of when you think about someone with a psychiatric illness? Do you think about someone like the character “Multiple Miggs” in the movie Silence of the Lambs; or do you think of them as your neighbor, co-worker or someone walking their dog past your home?

At the start of this piece, I stated that I have been in and out of psychiatric units for more than four decades. That is true. What is also true is that during the same time period, I have purchased a home, paid taxes, worked hard and was promoted in the private sector, raised two kids, held together a marriage for more than 19 years (and counting). Today I still mow my lawn, pay my bills and spend time with friends and family.

The scary thing? I’m a lot like you and other people you know and trust. The idea of being diagnosed with cancer is terrifying and for good reason. I have lost close friends to that horrible disease. Unfortunately, I have also lost some very good and close friends to mental illness.

So that’s why I’m open about my struggles. That’s why I try to remember to take my meds, even though they sometimes adversely impact my libido, my energy, my sleep and appetite.

Later this week, I am scheduled to have another ECT treatment (Electro-Convulsive Therapy). ECT treatments terrify me. I am afraid that I will not wake up from the anesthesia. Basically, ECT involves having enough electricity beamed into your brain to induce a seizure. So why do I go through with it?

Because, for me and many, many others, it works. It allows me to live. Once a month, I participate in an ECT support ZOOM meeting with other patients. It is so gratifying to see the progress that many of these people have made. To see them smile, laugh and be able to hold a conversation. To hear them say they were reluctant to get ECT until they heard me and others share our own experiences.

That’s what matters. That’s what is important to me.

If you ever want to reach out; if you ever need a friendly ear, please do not hesitate to contact me. If you don’t know me or have my contact info, you can ALWAYS reach out 24/7 365 days a year toll free at 1.888.568.1112 if you are concerned about yourself or somebody else.

Thank you,

PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY: CHAPTER TWO

The sun had barely crested the horizon and already the morning traffic was beginning to thicken. The limousine exited Interstate 93 and rolled seamlessly onto State Street, but still four blocks shy of its destination and running 15 minutes late because of a traffic accident involving a tractor-trailer truck and a Prius. It did not look good for the Prius. Katherine Hanson had folded her laptop more than five minutes ago. Irritated with both the driver and the accident, she tapped her fingers on the small metal cage next to her.

The rabbit was a sixteen-week-old, lop-eared kitten. It burrowed itself in a corner of the cage, furthest away from Katherine. The rabbit’s body of gray fur quivered and its beady eyes darted warily as if it sensed what was about to happen. After all, it was the third Tuesday of the month..

Katherine Hanson buttoned her coat, ignoring the rabbit beside her. She was a punctual woman and she loathed arriving late at the office, even a few moments late. She was a precise woman who didn’t like surprises, scheduling conflicts or heavy traffic. She made it a priority to anticipate those things. There would be no holiday bonus for her driver this year.

Until only 10 years ago, the flagship office of Weston, Jeffries & Kendall was located on Tremont Street, where the firm’s founding partners established their practice in 1865. Today, the firm’s new home on State Street was much more luxurious, a 43-story modern-style tower that featured columns of tinted glass and brownstone mortar. Like Katherine Hanson, the building was defined by its sharp, angled edges.

The building’s lobby was expansive with marbled floors, leather-wrapped cedar furnishings, floor to ceiling windows and a waterfall that cascaded into a Koi pond. A reception kiosk served as a barrier to the glass elevators that lined both sides of the lobby. Two security guards, dressed in white linen shirts, navy-blue ties and charcoal-gray jackets, were stationed at the kiosk. A receptionist would not arrive until 7:30.

Both men watched as Katherine Hanson entered the lobby through the revolving glass doors. Her steps were pronounced as her heels ticked along the marble tile, the rabbit cage dangling from her left arm.

The older guard was seated at the kiosk, which featured a panel of security monitor screens. The younger guard was leaning on the kiosk, apparently more than ready to end his shift and head home to Revere. Each of the guards had been working at Weston, Jeffries & Kendall for more than 15 years. “Good morning, Ms. Hanson,” they said in near unison, silently noting that she was arriving nearly 30 minutes later than her usual time.

Katherine barely acknowledged them with a curt nod. She knew their names. In fact, she knew the name of every one of the firm’s 2,775 employees across the United States and in seven countries. But she never addressed any of her subordinates by name.

Once the elevator doors closed, and knowing there was no chance of being overheard, the younger guard said to his colleague: “Fucking Tuesday, huh?”

“Yup,” the older man replied, barely looking up from the Herald’s sports section. “Hanson and her fucking rabbits. That is one twisted bitch.”

Katherine punched the button for the 41st floor. The rabbit was still quivering as the car ascended rapidly.

Katherine Hanson was 56, and she was recruited by Weston, Jeffries and Kendall nearly 20 years ago when she was working in the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Unit at Quantico. Standing five feet, eleven inches, she was a dominating figure with an athletic body that was punctuated by sharp shoulders. Her pale skin framed an elegant face with crystal blue eyes that were now further accentuated by her gray hair, which she kept short. Her appearance was the least of her worries. She wore only a minimal amount of makeup and avoided jewelry. No rings, no bracelets. No necklace. Just two diamond stud earrings that had belonged to her mother. There was nothing warm or inviting about Katherine Hanson.

The elevator doors opened and she marched toward her office with purpose and a building sense of relief. It was here, at the office, where Katherine felt in control, where things made sense and where people feared her. She liked that people were intimidated by her. It gave her an upper hand. And in her current occupation, it was imperative that others felt uneasy in her presence.

It was 6:15 and already many of the associates that worked on the 41st floor were busy in their cubicles, which were lined in rows along the center of the floor that contained three conference rooms and 12 private offices. None of the associates greeted Katherine as she strode past them. They knew better. They also knew why she was carrying a rabbit to her office but they pretended not to notice, instead staring at computer monitors, reading reports or assembling case files. Most associates at WJK were in their cubicles no later than 5 a.m. The firm’s partners were generally in their offices by 6:30. Senior partners were afforded the luxury of sleeping in and generally arrived around 7 a.m.

Unlike so many law firms, the long days at Weston, Jeffries and Kendall were not based on billable hours. Instead, arriving early and leaving late was a show of dedication and loyalty to the firm. The billable hours were certainly important, but not nearly as much as the loyalty.

Katherine was a senior partner and ran the firm’s research division. Most of the other senior partners in the firm’s Boston headquarters had spacious offices on either the 42nd and 43rd floor. But not Katherine. Her office was rather small and sparsely furnished. In the center of the room was a large mahogany desk but only one chair. Her chair, a high-back swivel that was centered between the desk and the rear wall, which featured a 175-gallon terrarium. Pressed against the wall closest to the door, there was a 55-gallon aquarium. A row of file cabinets lined another wall.

There were no pictures, no plaques, no testimonials or framed degrees. Katherine’s office gave the impression of a barren, cold and unwelcoming space.

She punched the key code to her office and quickly shut the door behind her. It was Tuesday, and there was a lot to do. She mindlessly placed the rabbit cage on the floor near her desk, hung up her coat, sat down and pulled out her laptop as she waited for the knock on her door.

_________

Katherine Hanson started her career in the Suffolk County District Attorney’s Office as a forensic psychologist. Working on a full scholarship, she graduated magna cum laude from Bates College with a degree in psychology before attending Boston University, where she earned both her master’s degree and PhD in forensic psychology. While working in the DA’s office, she attended night classes and earned her law degree from Suffolk University Law School.

Within a year of passing her bar exam, she found herself working for the Federal Bureau of Investigation. The work was rewarding but the pay was minimal, and Katherine was determined to never again be poor, white trash. So, she took kindly to the invitation for an upscale dinner meeting in Alexandria, Virginia with Bill Hager, the managing partner of Weston, Jeffries & Kendall. Between her stint at the DA’s office and three years at the FBI, she figured that she had done enough public service. It was time to make some money.

Hager’s initial offer was more than generous, but Katherine didn’t flinch when she demanded that she be hired as a partner if she was going to leave the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Unit. She could still recall Bill Hager’s slight grin as he sipped his scotch.

There would not be another interview. Hager was impressed. Katherine Hanson was hungry, and that’s what Weston, Jeffries & Kendall wanted most: hungry employees with voracious appetites and a solid sense of loyalty.

That was 20 years ago and Katherine had proven her loyalty to the firm in the most meaningful ways possible.

From her laptop bag, Katherine extracted a blue folder that contained the resume and previous interview notes for one Henry Barnes. The folder also contained a background report that was compiled by members of Katherine’s research division: background checks, interviews with teachers, professors, classmates, friends and family members and hard-to-obtain medical records.

The firm knew everything there was to know about Mr. Barnes. Now it was Katherine’s job to finalize the interview process. Henry had already been interviewed three times. The first interview was at the Washington, D.C. office with a partner in the firm’s international law division. Having aced that interview, Henry then faced a grilling session by an interview committee, which was composed of five of the firm’s senior partners in New York. From there, Henry met with Walter Anderson who had taken over as the firm’s managing partner when Bill Hager retired more than 10 years ago.

Henry’s upcoming meeting with Katherine would be the last step in the process. Katherine would make the final decision about whether Henry Barnes was going to begin a career with Weston, Jeffries & Kendall or whether he was going to hit the streets with a stack of resumes and his off-the-rack gray flannel suit.

Katherine had been meticulously reviewing Henry’s file for the last five days. Without meeting him in person, she had already summed up a rather detailed and comprehensive psychological evaluation. That evaluation was based on the words Henry used on his resume, the answers he gave during his prior interviews, the information gleaned from people who knew him.

Now Henry needed to pass the rabbit test.

Katherine only conducted interviews on Tuesdays. She did not work on Mondays. On every other day, she spent 12 to 15 hours at her office, including Sundays and most major holidays. Mondays were her days to run errands, or more accurately, to have errands run for her.

For Katherine, Tuesdays were the beginning of the work week; and the work week always began with the interviews on the third Tuesday of the month.

The first knock on her door came precisely at 6:30 a.m. The courier didn’t like Katherine. She was the most unpleasant woman, and he wondered why he was always the one assigned to make these deliveries.

Katherine opened her door halfway and extended her arms for the box. Tucking the box under her arm, she grabbed the clipboard from the courier and wordlessly signed for the package before closing the door. The courier breathed a sigh of relief before heading back toward the elevator. Another Tuesday was over, as far as he was concerned.

Katherine set the box on her desk and removed the seal marked CONFIDENTIAL. As usual, the box contained a packet of colored dossier folders. There were eight blue folders that contained background information on prospective employees for the firm. There were nineteen green folders, which contained background information on various individuals, including politicians, journalists and government bureaucrats. And there were six folders that contained information about carefully targeted individuals who could possibly be of great use to the firm.

The blue folders would be filed and indexed in Katherine’s office. The green folders would each be reviewed and then returned by courier to an offsite location. The contents of each of the yellow folders, however, would be on the premises for less than one day. Generally, the yellow folders and their contents were ultimately shredded and incinerated. In the rarest of cases, one or maybe two of the yellow folders would be shipped to a destination that only Katherine and three other people knew about.

The interview for Henry Barnes would begin at 8 a.m. Katherine had 90 minutes, and as always, she began a cursory review of the yellow folders and their contents.

_____

At 7:15, there was another knock on Katherine’s door. She knew who was on the other side because it was a ritual. She set down one of the folders that she was reviewing. “Come in,” she barked.

“Good morning, Katherine,” said Walter Anderson. He had a copy of the Washington Post rolled under one arm and a Starbuck’s coffee in his left hand. “Have you seen the polling numbers this morning?”

“Yes,” she sighed, glancing at her laptop.

“Well, we’re exactly six weeks away from the Iowa caucuses, and I’m less than enthusiastic.”

“Iowa is never a real bellwether for the nomination,” Katherine responded turning her gaze back to the man standing in her doorway.

“Well, that may be true, but I’m hoping your analysis holds up,” Walter said, shooting a quick glance at the rabbit cage on the floor. “Who is being interviewed today?”

“Henry Barnes. You interviewed him in November.”

Walter shook his head, taking a sip of coffee. “Yes, I remember him. Highly recommended. SC Law. Nice kid.”

“That’s exactly what I’m afraid of,” Katherine said, closing her laptop.

Despite the fact that Walter Anderson was her boss, Katherine treated him with the same indifference that she showed to most people. “If you don’t mind, I’d like to finish with some of these files before the interview.”

Walter nodded. “Never let it be said that I would interrupt someone’s work,” he said, pulling the door closed and turning back toward the elevator that would carry him to his office on the 43rd floor. Katherine put her reading glasses back on and reopened the file she was reading before Walter’s obligatory stop at her office.

___________

Henry Barnes sat in the lobby on the 15th floor of Weston, Jeffries & Kendall. It was 7:42 and he had only been there for 12 minutes, which felt like an eternity. He clutched his leather portfolio, fighting off the urge to check his phone.

He had silenced the phone the night before just in case he forgot. He had been up since 4 a.m. because he knew that today’s interview would define the rest of his life. He was 26 years old and passed the bar exam only four months ago.

Weston, Jeffries & Kendall was Henry’s top pick. He had interned at the firm’s Columbia, South Carolina offices for two years during law school at the University of South Carolina, and had been working on getting rid of his southern accent since.

His girlfriend, Mia, helped pick out the tie and shirt for today’s interview. Dutifully, she had also awoken at 4 a.m. on this particular morning because she knew that Henry’s interview was as important to her future as it was to his. If Henry was hired, she could expect a nice engagement ring on Christmas morning, which was now less than two weeks away.

The firm had paid for the hotel room and Henry’s airfare, but the young couple was forced to use their savings to buy Mia’s ticket. That $383 expenditure left them with only $1,400 remaining in their savings account. Henry was hungry. Mia was hungrier, and they both knew a lot about loyalty.

Actually, Henry had arrived at the firm some 45 minutes before his scheduled interview. The security guards made him wait in the main lobby until the reception and clerical staff arrived at 7:30. The guards had seen a lot of young men and women like Henry. Eager beavers who wanted to prove that they were ready to do whatever it takes to get hired.

As it was with every interview, the two guards took wagers on whether Henry would pass the “rabbit test.” The wager’s stakes were $20. Lou, the older guard, sized up Henry quickly, taking special note of the shine on his shoes. Mike, the younger guard, bet against Henry. In Mike’s mind, Henry’s southern accent made him weak. And Mike knew that Katherine Hanson despised weakness. She could smell it from a mile away. There was no way that this southern boy in his cheap suit was going to make it past the wicked bitch of the east, In fact, Mike wondered how Henry had survived the previous interview steps that were necessary to land him here on a cold, Tuesday morning.

Henry had spent the last three weeks rehearsing for this day. With Mia’s coaching, he tried to anticipate all of the interview questions. What was his greatest strength? His greatness weakness? Did he prefer working alone or in a team environment? Why should he be hired? On and on and on.

Now there was little more that he could do than wait. And the waiting seemed impossible. He closed his eyes and tried to regulate his breathing. After all, breathing — his father repeatedly told him since he was a young boy — was the most important thing. “If you ain’t breathing, nothing else matters, son.”

The 15th floor receptionist walked past Henry, arranging some periodicals and the latest editions of the Boston Globe, New York Times and Wall Street Journal on a mahogany coffee table. She looked up at the young man and noticed that he was hunched over, rubbing his eyes. “It shouldn’t be too much longer, now,” she said.

Henry opened his eyes and sat up straight. “Thank you.”

She returned to her desk that featured a single hanging wreath with a red bow. Other than that singular wreath, there was no way that anyone inside the building could discern that Christmas was only days away.

It was 7:54 a.m. and the receptionist picked up her phone. A few brief words and she looked over at Henry. “You can take that elevator to the 41st floor and you will be met by an escort,” she said. “Good luck.”

Henry stood and wiped the creases from his jacket. This was it. Make it or break it time. Her grabbed his overcoat and folded it over his arm. He carried his leather portfolio binder in his other arm and smiled warmly at the receptionist. “Thank you for your patience and hospitality.”

“You just relax. That’s the main thing,” she replied. “Be yourself. Don’t pretend.”

Henry nodded, finding it odd to receive such sage advice from a lower-level employee. “Thanks again,” he said, turning for the elevator.

_________

Within 45 seconds, Henry found himself in yet another lobby. The third one of the morning, although each of the lobbies seemed to decrease in both size and splendor. A man about his own age was waiting for Henry at the elevator.

“Good morning, my name is Josh Rubenstein,” the man said, extending his arm. “I’m one of the associates here.”

Henry shook his hand. “It’s nice to meet you, Mr. Rubenstein.”

“No need to be so formal,” Josh said. “You can sit on the bench right over there. I’ll hang your coat for you. Ms. Hanson is extraordinarily punctual, and she knows you’re here.”

“Great. Thank you.”

Henry couldn’t help but to glance at this watch. 7:56. Only four minutes remaining before his interview. 240 seconds until do or die.

Through a closed-circuit television monitor app on her laptop, Katherine Hanson had been studying Henry Barnes for the last 20 minutes. She also watched the footage of his arrival and noted the time. She listened to his brief conversation with the guards. She watched him fidget in the main lobby without ever so much as glancing at the koi pond. Usually visitors would take a peek over the railing to admire the giant koi that swam in the pond.

So far, Henry matched his profile perfectly. Restless, intelligent and hungry.

Katherine knew what time he left the hotel that morning. She knew that he skipped breakfast. She knew that he usually drank coffee but not this morning.

She cleared the top of her desk, closing her laptop and placing the remaining files in a drawer. The only visible trace of work on her desk was the closed laptop computer, Henry Barnes’ blue dossier folder, a blank legal pad and a pen.

She walked around the rabbit cage and opened the door to her office, standing halfway in the doorframe. “Mr. Barnes.”

Henry stood up from the bench and smiled.

“You may come in now.”

Henry had done diligent research about Weston, Jeffries & Kendall. Strangely, he was unable to find any profile information about Katherine Hanson on the firm’s web site. An exhaustive search on Google yielded similar results. It was as if Katherine Hanson was a ghost. According to the world-wide web, she did not exist.

The first thing he noted was that she was almost as tall as he was. Her stare made him uncomfortable and he awkwardly extended his hand to shake hands with her. She did not return the gesture, instead opening the door to her office a bit wider.

Henry was taken aback by how sparse her office was. He noted that there was no chair to sit in, and wondered why there was a rabbit cage on the floor next to her desk. He positioned himself in the center of the room. It looked as if he would be standing for this interview.

Ironically, the most striking part of Katherine Hanson’s office was the 175-gallon terrarium t centered behind her desk. A native of South Carolina, Henry immediately knew the species of snake that lived in the terrarium. It was an Eastern Diamondback rattlesnake coiled under a heat lamp. He shifted his gaze back to the rabbit on the floor. Now there was no question in his mind about the bunny’s presence in Katherine Hanson’s office.

Perhaps it was symbolic, he thought. He was the rabbit. She was the snake. In such combinations, it rarely worked out for the rabbit.

Katherine strode around Henry picking up the rabbit cage. “I hope you don’t mind,” she said. “It’s just that I overlooked feeding Lucifer this morning.”

Henry could feel the sweat breaking out on his brow. This lady is a psychologist and she has a pet rattlesnake named Lucifer in her office? She’s a fuckin’ psycho. I am so screwed.

Henry instinctively knew that if he thought his previous interviews with the firm’s partners were difficult he was wrong. This was going to be the real test. This was going to be a nightmare. A story you tell around a campfire or over a round of beers with your college buddies.

Katherine removed the quivering rabbit from its cage, nuzzling its nose with her own. “You’re a good bunny, aren’t you?”

The rabbit could sense its fate. Henry tried to look away, but there was nothing else to focus on. The office was barren.

Katherine lifted one section of the terrarium’s lid, gently pacing the rabbit behind a glass partition that separated it from the still coiled snake, which was now aroused and shaking its rattle. With her back to Henry, Katherine replaced the terrarium cover and gently lifted the glass partition so that the rabbit was now completely exposed to its predator.

The snake began to uncoil, slithering it way across the bottom of the terrarium, weaving left and then right across the rocks and gravel. The rabbit instinctively turned its back to the snake, clawing desperately on the sheer glass of the terrarium wall, desperate and frightened.

It was only a matter of seconds before Lucifer struck. Katherine seemed mesmerized, watching in delight as the snake begin to make small work of its prey. The rabbit’s eyes were half closed, its body now limp, and the snake begin feeding.

Katherine turned from the terrarium and took a seat behind her desk.

It was precisely 8 a.m. and time for the interview to begin.

____________

Henry shifted his weight to his left leg, but he couldn’t help but to watch Lucifer slowly devour the rabbit. The action was happening right in front of him. He shifted his gaze downward, watching Katherine take a seat behind her desk.

Katherine opened the blue folder containing the firm’s background workup on Henry Barnes. She started her questioning slowly, reading from the file.

“So, Mr. Barnes . . . may I call you Henry?”

“Yes, that’s fine,” Henry replied, wondering why he was forced to stand and still trying to avoid eye contact with the terrarium.

“Let’s skip the usual bullshit, okay?” Katherine said, still focused on the file. “You have interned with this firm for two summers. You have already had two interviews, so I think we can dispense of the typical interview crap. Is that okay with you?”

“Yes, ma’am. That’s fine.” Remember your posture. He rolled his shoulders back slightly, trying to imagine that it was Mia sitting behind that desk like they had rehearsed so many times before.

“What are you feeling as you watch my snake eat its meal?”

Henry didn’t hesitate with his response. “Honestly, I find it a bit disconcerting,” he said.

“Honestly?” she inquired, still focused on the file and yet to look at him.

“Yes.”

“As if there were a dishonest answer you were considering?”

“No ma’am. It’s just an expression.”

“I would call it a cliché,” she said, looking up from her file and studying Henry’s face.

Lucifer continued devouring its prey. What remained of the rabbit was on its side, its head and torso still intact.

“Do you have any resentment about the war?” she inquired, after a long and awkward pause.

Henry cocked his head. “What war, ma’am?”

“Which war?” she corrected him.

Blew the first two questions. Not a great start, Henry was thinking. “Yes, which war?” he said.

“You’re from the south,” she said, turning back to the file. “The Civil War.”

Henry was ready to take a risk. He wanted to lighten the mood and take back some control of the interview. “The war’s not over,” he smiled. “It’s just halftime.”

Katherine looked up from her desk, and Henry quickly lost his smile. “Interesting answer,” she said. “Are you a racist?”

“No ma’am. I have many friends of color.”

“Of color? Don’t you mean black?”

“Not necessarily. My roommate in college was Hispanic, and several of my closest friends are African Americans.”

“So, because you have black friends that is supposed to mean you’re not a racist?” she asked.

“Ma’am, my part of the country has a pretty ugly history when it comes to race relations but that does not make every white person from the south a racist. In fact, I think every person, no matter where they are from, black or white, carries some small, almost undetectable hint of racism in their heart. It’s a natural thing for the human brain to segment things of similarity and things of difference. It’s part of the natural order, but humans are capable of overcoming those hidden, core instincts.”

“You sound defensive.”

Henry shifted his weight to his right foot, hoping for an easier question. “Not defensive, ma’am. It’s just what I believe.”

“Part of your value structure?”

“You could call it that,” he said, wondering where this thread was leading.

“I just did,” she said, giving him another steely gaze.

Henry knew better than to respond. He was in the deep end of the pool and only three minutes into the most important interview of his life. He decided to tread water.

Katherine looked back at the folder. “How long have you been dating your girlfriend?” she asked.

Henry’s answer was crisp and delivered with absolute clarity. “Five years, seven months,” he said, feeling better now.

“Are you planning to get married?” she asked.

“We have talked about it. I would like to once I get my life settled.”

“Is your life unsettled now, Mr. Barnes?”

“Yes,” he said without hesitation. “Otherwise, I would not be in this room with you.”

Katherine made a notation on her legal pad, but Henry could not make out her scribbling.

“Hypothetical question, Mr. Barnes. It is 10 years from now, and you are married to Mia. You are on a cruise ship with Mia and your parents. There is a tragedy, and both your mother and Mia are drowning. You can only save one of them from certain death. Whom do you save?”

Again, Henry did not hesitate with his response. “I would save Mia,” he said.

Katherine made another notation on her legal pad and again rested her eyes on Henry’s face. “Why?”

“Because Mia is younger and according to your hypothetical, she is my wife,” he said.

“I understand the first part of your response, but I need some help understanding the second part of your response,” she said.

“Well, ma’am, the first part of my response was pure logic without emotion. The second part of my response comes from my core values.’

“Again, your core values. Interesting theme, Mr. Barnes.” Katherine made another notation on the legal pad before turning her gaze back toward him. She saw him flinch in the most subtle of ways. “So please explain this core value.”

“It’s from the Bible, ma’am. Genesis, Chapter 2, Verse 24: For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”

Inwardly, Katherine admired the response, but Henry was unsure of whether he should have played the religion card.

“You are Catholic,” she said. “Catholics must be pretty rare in South Carolina.”

Not as much as Jews or Muslims, Henry wanted to say, but he knew better. She was trying to rattle him, and he refused to be the rabbit. He squared his breathing and rolled his shoulders to relax. “Yes, contrasted to Boston, Catholics are a pretty rare breed in the south, ma’am.”

“Yet, you quoted the Bible almost verbatim. I didn’t think Catholics studied the Bible.”

“I grew up in a working-class family,” Henry said. “Our parents could not afford to send us to camp, so instead, my sister and I were sent to summer Bible camp that was run by the Baptist church. We were supposed to memorize Bible verses. I never made it past the Book of Genesis.”

Katherine made another notation on her legal pad, and Henry immediately regretted showing a weakness by admitting that he did not take his studies seriously, even though he was only 10-years-old.

Now his hands were clammy and the leather portfolio he was holding felt moist.

“You are Catholic,” Katherine said again. “And you talk a lot about core values. You and Mia have pre-marital sex, which is forbidden by your church. Do your values always fluctuate so freely?”

Again, Henry was caught off guard by the question. This was no ordinary interview.

“I am not a strict Catholic,” was all he managed to say.

“So, you’re an ala-carte Catholic. You pick and choose your core values to suit your own needs and desires?” It was much more a statement than a question, and Henry decided to let this one slide.

“You see the aquarium behind you?” she asked.

Henry turned his head, and inhaled a sharp burst of air. Fucking piranhas. Can this interview get any weirder?

“Do you know what kind of fish those are?” she asked.

“Yes, ma’am. They are piranhas.”

“Right. Now I want you to stick your hand into that tank for just two seconds. Two seconds only. In and out. Do you understand?”

Henry turned back to face her. This was his moment. “No ma’am.”

Katherine leaned back in her chair, studying him for several moments.

“You understand that this firm places great emphasis on loyalty?” Again more a statement than a question.

“Yes, I do,” Henry said, feeling increasingly confident.

“Then why not honor my simple request? Just two seconds?”

“Because I know something else that this firm values,” Henry said, allowing a smile to cross his face. “You want attorneys with good judgment. It would be poor judgment to stick my hand in a tank full of piranhas. Furthermore, it would expose both you and the firm to potential litigation.”

“If you intentionally stuck your own hand into a tank of piranhas for financial gain . . . well, I wish you luck with that lawsuit, Mr. Barnes,” Katherine said, fighting the urge to smile.

“Well, it seems a moot point because I’m not going to do it.”

Katherine rose behind her desk. “Thank you, Mr. Barnes. Please leave my office and take the elevator to the 16th floor. There, you will find our personnel office. They have some forms you will need to complete. Welcome to Weston, Jeffries & Kendall.”

Henry beamed. He had no idea what those words implied.

c. 2017/ Randy Seaver

Sick of Myself

Rights without obligations set the stage for anarchy. Obligations without rights set the stage for tyranny.

The older I get, the more I wonder about the world, humanity and whether we are making progress or simply marching off a cliff while chanting about our rights, about our individual uniqueness and about being offended.

What do we have in common if we are all so goddamn unique? What value do we place on our neighbors and upon all the other people who inhabit our planet? What is the basis for our morality?

Last week, I criticized Biddeford Mayor Alan Casavant and the city council for dreaming up the idea that we need to create a “diversity” committee in the city. Despite my criticisms, they went right ahead and approved the idea to create the committee. Good for them. I still, however, think that it’s a lot of sound and fury about nothing other than political pandering.

But this week, I find myself applauding Casavant and his decision to issue a proclamation that asks residents and visitors to wear a mask when visiting local businesses and public buildings.

It is NOT a mask mandate such as those issued by the mayors and city councils of other Maine communities, including Portland, South Portland and Brunswick.

Casavant’s proclamation also urges all community members to be “patient and understanding of the challenges that are posed by the pandemic.” Casavant then did something really stupid. He posted his proclamation on the city’s Facebook page.

The knee-jerk reaction was swift and unforgiving. While most people indicated that they supported the mayor’s proclamation, there were plenty of other comments criticizing the decision. One commenter wrote “and the hits keep coming from the Democrats” while others said the pandemic is nothing more than a hoax orchestrated by the pharmaceutical industry and Joe Biden’s dog, Major.

If you think wearing a mask while in public places is government tyranny then maybe you should go back to your bunkers, stock up on Hot Pockets and order more ammo from Amazon.

Behold, I send you out as a sheep among the wolves

Last year, one of my Facebook friends called me a “sheep” because I thought getting vaccinated and wearing a mask made a lot of sense during a global pandemic.

My doctor, a board-certified internist, said my decision made good sense. And that’s saying something because that bastard is always on my ass about something: smoking, not exercising, poor diet, excessive sleep, recreational drugs and being overweight.

Last week, an American Airlines plane traveling from Miami to London had to turn back because a passenger in first class refused to wear a face mask. The flight was cancelled and the other passengers had to re-book their flights. 128 people had to go through an unnecessary bout of extreme aggravation because one person refused to wear a mask.

If I had been one of those other passengers, I would have used my face mask to strangle the man or woman who refused to comply with the airline’s requirement about face masks.

For those of you who say that your “rights” are being violated because you’re being asked to wear a mask in public places, let me make something perfectly clear: you don’t have the right to fly on American Airlines. You don’t have the right to shop at Walmart or any other retail store. These are private businesses. They get to set their own rules.

Furthermore, you cannot send your kid to school without a shirt or shoes even on a really hot day. You do have Constitutional rights but you also have a moral obligation to be a decent human being, to be considerate of others  . . . to care about the world outside your own front door.

I have not been to church in a very long time, but I consider myself to be a Christian man. From what I have read and been taught, Jesus extolled the virtues of kindness, generosity and forgiveness. He asked us to consider the needs of our fellow man.

Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few? I honestly don’t know.

Maybe, just maybe, it’s time for all of us to step back and consider not only our rights, but also our obligations. Otherwise, what’s the point?

Originally published in Saco Bay News